If the ballroom lady asks for any favor of a gentleman, such as to inquire if her carriage is waiting, he should under no circumstances refuse her requests
Ball is one of the opportunities on which you do not want to be embarrassed. How they have a history, balls also have rules that are respected for decades, centuries…
Earlier, and should be respected today – ladies and gentlemen were on their best behavior in the ballroom. Manners more formal, clothing is finer, and bows were deeper.
Men expected to be extremely active in the ballroom to make up for the passivity required of ladies; who could not ask gentlemen to dance, and who could not even be seen to cross the dance floor unscorted. Ladies would be sent to their station by a gentleman, and there they would wait until another gentleman came to speak to them, ask them to dance or convey them to the punchbowl.
The gentleman should call for the lady whom he escorts, go with her to the ball, escort her to the dressing room, return to join her when she is ready to go to the reception room … engage her company for the first dance, and escorts her to a supper when she is ready to go. It must watch and see that she has a partner for dancing throughout the evening. After reaching home, if the lady invites him in, he must decline.
A gentleman should always walk around a lady’s train and never try to step over it. If by accident he should tread on her dress, he should beg her pardon, and if by greater awkwardness he should tear it, he must offer to escort her If the ballroom lady asks for any favor of a gentleman, such as to inquire if her carriage is waiting, he should under no circumstances refuse her requests … well bred gentleman will look after those who are unsupported and neglected in the dance.